Sunday, November 30, 2008

 

When you're blinded by an unconsumable rage, and start hurting all in your path, it's time to go.

saw this quote on zhiwei's msn. apparently a quote from quantum of solace.

i would agree with it quite a bit. staying at any organisation, or even with any person, friend (with the exception of family cos you dun really get to change your family members that you were born with) sometimes perhaps it's better to leave, and let both sides remain intact. alot of hurt can be generated before we realise it, and i guess the best person to prevent that would be the one that's accumulating rage and going to start hurting people.

but leaving is not the only option. maybe you can talk things out. i still believe in sharing my troubles with my friends. no doubt that it does nothing to improve the actual situation, but it soothes me alot and prevent me from going into the problem without my head, which would probably had made matters worse. of course sometimes you have to choose who you can share with. but surely everyone would have a closest someone to share with, or a few close friends. by definition, there must exist a closest, so there's no argument there. problem comes in when the closest is not good enough to share with, or not available. sometimes i get that feeling. that i could maybe become the closest available but that will not be good enough by your gauge. i've started mumbling nonsense again. and there's probably more alternatives other than leaving and talking things out. explore. life is a journey so learn along the way.

of course, blindness is a problem as well. sometimes when you really are blinded by rage and you cant even see a way out, perhaps it'll be better to get away and cool down, before re-looking at what's going on. dun leave problems on the shelf for too long because they will tend to grow bigger when you take your eyes off them. so once i'm neutral again i usually try to get back to the problem asap. and lastly, sometimes you really do have to go. it may be hard to admit, it may hurt, but if this will be the path of least hurt for everyone, then you have to prepare yourself (and others) for it. by definition, everyone includes yourself (unlike the case that my japanese lecturer discussed) so dun think you're hurting the least because you become the only one that's hurt. that's so not being objective anymore. and you'll risk becoming blinded by rage (or hurt) one day, so please prevent that kind of outcome again.

so, for the sake of your friends, etc, pls handle this well.

Zhengyu wrote at 10:46 AM.